Mindfulness is at the core of my life and my work. What does that mean? For me it means that I don't want to miss a moment. I want to be as fully present as I possibly can be. I want to deeply take in the beauty of nature, even in those moments when I'm zooming down the highway and a sunset stuns me, or a hawk flies low across the road. It is actually on the highway that my mindful awareness snaps to attention as I grapple with the reality that my life could be over in a split second if something gets in the way of my 70 mile an hour box of metal.
I don't want to miss a moment, and I want others to be able to cherish their moments too. I want all of us to honor as much of this life as possible, even the hard stuff, at the same time I want to do this peacefully. Not rushing around trying to fit everything in, or only focusing on the fun, but going deeply into the moments into the light and the dark, into what is before us, sensing it, breathing it, having gratitude for having our lives at all!
How can we cherish our moments more deeply? From a therapeutic perspective our inability to be in a state of awe and gratitude comes directly from our conditioning, trauma, pain, and isolation. It is really, really hard to snap out of depression, anxiety, obsession, etc into gratitude, and often we seek help from things that not are not good for us, just to make it through.
Yet what brings people to therapy is an innate knowing that this is their one precious life and they want to be able to live it to the fullest. We feel: blocked, cutoff, frozen, terrified, anxious, helpless, blank, numb, crazy, confused, and in pain. Yet this is still our life. The only life we know of that we will have. Mindfulness is a profoundly helpful path back to the miracle, where gratitude comes easily, as do tears, as we quietly and courageously delve into the fact that we are breathing, that we will die, that we live in a boundless universe, that love is at the essence of it, and that this planet is really, really beautiful. Mindfulness is a practice that helps you to heal by helping you to shift your attention from reacting to experiences to just witnessing them as they are . Very simply it is the practice of stopping, focusing your attention on your breath, and letting the fullness of the moment become who you are: which is everything! We are not separate and yet we are, and that paradox eventually becomes the ground of being, where we are neither. We just are, and that is the miracle.
Mindfulness is a bell ringing, a beautiful bell, that reminds you of the intrinsic beauty and goodness that pervades all of life, even in the most difficult of moments. This bell calls you to attention, as if you are realizing that you are alive for the first time, and that everything around you is new, as if you've never seen it before, and you look deeply into the moment and what arises is love, love for your life, and compassion to yourself for those moments when you have forgotten the miracle. This compassion grows to all others. It becomes your foundation. Anger no longer needs to rise towards others because you see that they just don't get that this is a miracle. Our work then becomes how to create a world where the miracle is honored every where, all the time. Life is awesome. Realizing it happens right now, right here, in this moment.
You can contact me at 413-341-4140 for Mindfulness based Counseling Sessions.